Anyway, today's blog entry would be about relationships; how we do it, and how people in the West do it. Yeah yeah, I know, I'm not a big fan of writing stuffs about lovey-dovey things but sometimes, a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do... After watching HIMYM, which is a pretty awesome show, UP HIGH BARNEY STINSON, I must say that how most of us based serious relationships on foundations that are....shakey. Exemptions of my observations, shut up, this entry is not about you. NOTE THE WORD "most"...not "all".
Boy likes girl. Girl playing hard to get. Boy not confident, scared so he get the girl's number from her friend. The girl somehow overlooks that flaw and find him somehow interesting. They contacted each other, VIA MESSAGES, for a few weeks. Romantic poems here, daily cheesy messages through the phone, chocolates there, a little bit of pixie dust, bang, boom, pow, they're a couple, they love each other. AND THEN THEY DECIDE TO GO OUT ON THEIR FIRST OFFICIAL DATE.
Boy likes girl. Girl likes boy. Both are scared and shy to make the first move. A friend play match-maker and introduced them to each other. Yada yada yada, bla bla bla, pixie dust, BOOM! They're a couple, they both love each other. AND THEN THEY DECIDE TO GO OUT ON THEIR FIRST OFFICIAL DATE.
Girl likes boy. Boy's confident, handsome, hard to get, and flirtatious. Boy initiated the first move. Girl's practically dying due to over-excitement and will do and say yes to anything to the boy. Yada yada yada, bla bla bla, pixie dust, BOOM! They're a couple, they both love each other. AND THEN THEY DECIDE TO GO OUT ON THEIR FIRST OFFICIAL DATE.
Girl likes boy. Boy likes girl. Both are confident. Both watch Hollywood romantic movies. Both are open-minded. Both like to take it slow. Both went to more than just one or two dates. Obviously, both have experience in dating and relationships before. Yada yada yada, bla bla bla, pixie dust, BOOM! They're a couple, they both love each other.
Out of the 4 examples, I am willing to bet that the last one would last longer than all the first three combined. That is because they take it slow. One thing about being a couple, we all wanna know our partners better, we all wanna know all them teenie tiny secrets and details that make our partners special. But through the phone? Texting? Words written and shown on a screen? Well, one thing's for sure is that we can only know whether that guy or girl is good with words or not...that's all.
In them first world countries, people get to know others that they are interested in better by going on dates. In fact, they are willing to go on many dates because to them, building a relationship with that special person is a process of trial and error which takes more than just once or twice. They need to kiss lots of frogs before finding the prince. To them, by going on dates, they can get to know the other person outside the responsibilities that are clutching them when you see them everyday at school or college. Because outside of these responsibilities, they will not try as hard as they were to act good, be nice, or be a saint because they felt that this is their time, their space, their rewards and they will use it their way.
They go on first dates. And if they like how their partners looked on the inside, they will be a second date. And things will move forward from then onwards if things are turning to be positive. And if the other partner decides to act like a person he or she is not, as we all know, these people might as well just bloody rot in hell.
Personally, I think that this is the utter most ideal way, or should I say, Idealest...UP HIGH STINSON, for a person to build new relationships, if not serious ones. Because this way, one can see their partners in more ways than one. One can view their partners in many angles as much as them handphones, myspace, or even yahoo messengers could only possibly do...but by going on dates, yeah, the angle is infinite. Am I sounding dirty on something...haha.
And furthermore, people who are serious about relationships care about this little thing I call I-Love-You-ginity. To these people, this thing is like their virginity. They can only lose it once. Because of this, they want it to be really, really, really meaningful and the person that will be receiving it, is one heck of a lucky fella. But for virginity, once you decided that you want to put a hole on someone, or let it be drilled by someone, whether you mean it or not, you will lose it forever. FIST BUMP STINSON...
I once asked my friend a question. I asked him that you said I LOVE YOU to this particular girl, many times, and because we are humans and we can't see the future, let's just say that if one day you two are to break up due to some unknown reason, what is the worth of I LOVE YOU to the new girl some 3 months, 5 months, 1 year, or even 5 years later? The dude is my friend...so I won't humiliate him....here at least...haha.
And words like BOYFRIENDS and GIRLFRIENDS mean something to these people too. They will not go on a first or second date and call each other their BFs or GFs soon after that.
But dude, the things that you are saying, those are for couples that are serious, that actually wanna get married to each other you say? And besides, you're not even in any relationship, what makes you think that you can give us lessons on relationships. Well, if that's the case, all I'm saying, view that three sacred words from a different view from now on. Or tone it done or something. The rights to date someone is totally yours, the rights to like someone is totally yours, I respect that. That is why I never told anyone of you to not like someone or not to go on dates. Most of my friends are either still in school, college, as old as me, or if older, would be at around 20 or 21, I'm just saying you guys should just tone it down a bit...the I love you part. Because people like me are a little bit offended if you guys keep on changing partners like changing condoms...how I wish those people can get AIDS or something...haha.
People, I might be a pessimistic, narcissistic, sarcastic, pathetic reason of a human being. But this human being still believes that love, true love is out there somewhere. In a place where it is surrounded by a tall brick wall, with sentries and dogs guarding and a mote surrounding it with alligators, crocodiles, and piranhas in it... =_=' A rare, miraculous natural phenomenon that occurs only when it receives orders from God personally to do so. A hypocritical romantic perhaps? Well, each and every one of us is a hypocrite so yeah, it's not too bad to be called a hypocritical romantic...or should I say hypomantical....yeah...totally nailed it...HIGH FIVE!!!
Readers, all I'm saying, there will constantly be people looking at those couples who are being soooooo bloody happy in front of everyone else with the green-eyed monster as their friend. They are at wits end thinking how on earth does this dude keep on changing partners..changing soul mates...changing the love of their life at a weekly or months basis. These people are the ones that should be given a chance to be with the partners or their friends, because they view love as something sacred and godsend. But because life ain't perfect, and that badass brick wall with sentries, dogs, crocodiles, and piranhas still guarding this little thing called love, and it have not received personal orders from God Himself to roll out, yeah, these people can only fantasize and hope something good will happen to them...eventually. haha...
So, ladies and gentlemen, there you have it. With that, I'd finished my first ever 21st blog entry in my entire life. Hope you guys enjoy it...cheers.